Suicide?

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Rudolph Gschloessl

In a surprising twist to the case of the fate of Café Aubergine owner Rudolph Gschloessl, Senior Resident Magistrate Pusey (of Cuban Light bulb fame) has sent the case over to the Coroner’s court. This is owing to the fact that, the post mortem conducted on the body of Mr. Gschloessl indicates that death was caused by asphyxiation from self inflicted wounds to the throat.

Forensic evidence collected at the scene of the crime does not place the infamous Gay Lodger in the vicinity of the body and seemingly confirms the accused version of the events last November. In sending the matter over to the Coroner’s Court, the formerly accused will be sent as a witness to the suicide!

Questions surrounding police procedure in the handling of the case have been raised as well as the method of Café Aubergine’s termination of the

Cafe Aubergine

formerly accused employ will be scrutizined to ensure conformity with established provisions. Questions will also be raised about the veracity of the suicide conclusion of the Post Mortem results.

In November of last year The Star Newspaper noted that: “The police have charged one man in connection with the murder of Café Aubergine owner, Rudolph Gschloessl.

Gschloessl, who was part-owner and operator of the popular French/Italian restaurant, was killed at his Mona home on October 25. The man charged in relation to his death has been identified as (The Gay Lodger), a 24-year-old administrative assistant who worked at the restaurant and also lived at the same premises as Gschloessl.

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Although initial police reports say that an occupant of the house heard screams and checked to find Gschloessl dead, the police say thorough investigations and questioning of the accused revealed that was not the case.

Investigators say that though Gschloessl’s throat was slashed, he managed to call his private security company and tell them that an intruder had entered and attacked him. They say, however, that investigations revealed that there was no forced entry.

The accused was questioned and was officially charged last Saturday.

Café Aubergine has been a fixture on Jamaica’s culinary landscape for 10 years and specialises in French and Italian cuisine with Jamaican touches. The establishment was run by Gschloessl and a business partner.”

 

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Pegasus Bows: J-Flag issues letter

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Entrance to the Jamaica Pegasus Hotel

Dear Colleague:

Today(November 25, 2010)  J-FLAG was invited to a meeting with the General Manager, Hotel Manager and the Director of Sales and Marketing of The Jamaica Pegasus. This meeting was called in response to the issue of J-FLAG being denied the rental of meeting space on November 18.

In sifting through the issues, Eldon Bremmer, the General Manger stated that the reservation had in fact come to his attention and that he knew that access was being denied. He also stated that the decision was based on an unfortunate experience from a private party with members of the community.

The Management admitted that they handled the situation badly and recognised that a different approach was needed to address any concerns they had. There was an error in judgment and action but this was not out of any mal-intent. They are committed to facilitating engagement with J-FLAG and have agreed on some ways forward. It was underscored by the management that J-FLAG would not in the future be prevented from booking the facilities.

The General Manager has promised to respond to us in writing, copying the partners indicated in our correspondence. We look forward to receiving same and sharing this with you if you do not receive it directly.

Sincerely,
Dane Lewis
Executive Director
Jamaica Forum for Lesbians All-Sexuals and Gays – J-FLAG
Tel/ Fax: (876)978-8988
Website: www.jflag.org
email: admin@jflag.org

Please click here for copy of J-FLAG letter: Jamaica Pegasus_Discrimination_November 2010annex 1_Jamaica Pegasus_Nov2010

Gays Flex Muscle:J-FLAG targets Pegasus for Possible Boycott

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News emerging out of Canada is that the Jamaica Forum for Lesbians All-Sexuals and Gays (JFLAG) was recently prevented from hosting a meeting on the premises of

The Jamaica Pegasus Hotel

the Jamaica Pegasus Hotel in Kingston. The Meeting was scheduled to have taken place on Thursday, November 18 and was to have involved stakeholders from Agencies of the United Nations and other allies of the entity. It is further understood that advanced booking for the event was undertaken albeit not paid.

The Jamaica Pegasus Hotel has not given any reason for its black listing of the local LGBT Advocacy organization. However, confirmed reports are that J-FLAG was advised of the action via a telephone call from the Director of Sales and Marketing at the Jamaica Pegasus. It has been further confirmed that the Pegasus has indicated that the action was undertaken by the management of the hotel because of the nature of the organization organizing the meeting and is in no way related to misbehavior on the part of any member of the community as has been whispered.

J-FLAG has offered no comment on the issue, except to indicate that they are awaiting a meeting with the Pegasus to discuss the reason and rationale behind its decision. Notably, the Pegasus was given one week, one week ago to contact the organization.

Already, the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime (unconfirmed) has moved to blacklist the Pegasus and it is expected that organizations such as the United Nations Development Programme (UNDP), the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) and the Joint United Nations Programme on HIV and AIDS (UNAIDS) will also move to do same. It is further expected that JFLAG will reach out to partner organizations globally to mount a campaign against the Pegasus and pressure will be brought to bear on embassies particularly that of the United States and those of the European Union to cancel all present and future meetings at that location.

Wikipedia Research indicates that The Jamaica Pegasus Hotel is a hotel in Kingston, Jamaica, located at 81 Knutsford Boulevard in the financial and business district of the city. A noted landmark, the hotel is 17 stories high. The hotel, which was built in the 1970s, is also a notable location for conferences and meetings, exhibitions, and weddings and anniversaries. The hotel has 9 conference rooms for these events. The hotel is also affiliated with American Airlines.

Mondo Talks Positive: Part II of interview with Mondo Guerra

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When Mondo Guerra was chosen to be on the hit reality show Project Runway, his main goal was to live out his dream of being a successful fashion designer, not be a poster boy for HIV. But one emotional challengecompelled him to disclose on air that he had been living with HIV for the past 10 years. In this exclusive interview with TheBody.com, Mondo talks about living with HIV for a decade, overcoming fear and stigma, and the disclosure that was seen around the world.

As part of our preparations for World AIDS Day , only last week we brought you Part I of the interview. Here is Part II of the interview taken from thebody.com !

What were some of the side effects you had experienced?

It probably ran the gamut of everything. I had sleep issues, whether I was sleepy all the time or I couldn’t sleep. I had crazy, like, mental — I don’t know — I can’t even describe it. Like, weirdness in my head about certain things. Physically, I would wake up and I’d just feel different. I just had never been on something so strong before and [I felt] that my body was probably in some way rejecting the medicine.

So it took a while for your doctor to find the right combination for you?

Yes, it took quite a long time. In the last couple of years, I ended up in the hospital with complications from the HIV. That’s how sick I got. I was in the hospital twice with pneumonia, two separate times, for a year-and-a-half period. [By that point] my numbers really, really dropped. That’s when they really started giving me care.

The thing about it is that I’m an artist. I don’t have a job where I get insurance, so it’s really hard to find the best treatment. So I was relying on state-funded treatment and doctors and this and that. You know, I really appreciate and I’m grateful for all the help I received, but in a lot of ways, it was to the point where I was basically dying to really get a fire lit and find something that was going to work for me.

It’s a really great point that you’re bringing up. How can we keep people healthy longer without their numbers dropping? That has to take a passion from health care providers as well to be more on top of it and aggressive.

Right, exactly.

Which is sad, because it shouldn’t take for people to be sick and sicker. When you were in the hospital, what were you thinking?

The first time I was in the hospital, I was still hiding the secret and living with it. I was scared. Then that turned into depression. And I think the reason why I ended up in the hospital a second time was because I was just in a really low place. Mentally and emotionally, I was at such a low point in my life that I allowed myself to be sick. That’s exactly what happened. So I ended up again in the hospital. That was really bad. I think the last time I was in the hospital I was in the hospital over Christmas. So I was almost to the point of giving up. I didn’t even want to try anymore.

To live? You didn’t want to try to live anymore?

Yes, right, exactly.

Where did your family think you were over the break, over the holiday?

They visited me in the hospital, but I advised the doctors not to tell them. They would always consult with me without my parents around. And I would lie to [my parents], because I was ashamed and just scared. I was just at a low place. But, I feel like in some cases, you really have to hit rock bottom to make the turn around. And when I got out of the hospital, the last time, I knew that I was unhappy, that I was sick, and my health was quickly diminishing.

So I really made a conscious decision to turn it all around and to really focus on taking care of myself. From sleeping better, eating better, taking my meds on time every day and seeing my doctor all the time. Now was the time to figure everything out that was going on with my body. And I also knew that I had to start setting goals again.

Since I had been HIV positive, I broke up with my partner in New York and had not been in a relationship for over five to six years. And that was really hard for me, too. I wanted to be in love and I wanted to be successful again, working at a dream. So these were all things that I had to consciously work toward.

I realized that when I am being creative and producing work, is when I’m the most happy. So I knew I had to be at that point, but in order to be at that point, I also had to be physically in sync with everything else. And it took a while. It really did take a while, but it all happened.

You said that you hadn’t dated. Do you mean that you just didn’t put yourself back in the dating game, or that you didn’t meet anybody you liked?

I tried to, but the stigma behind it, even in the gay community — I felt like sometimes there’s discrimination against guys that are positive.

There’s AIDS phobia in the gay community.

Yes, the AIDS phobia. I would go on dates and I’d disclose my status, and I would never hear anything back from somebody that I thought was nice or could potentially be understanding. I ran into that enough that I just didn’t want to put myself out there to be rejected again. So I just stopped.

It bothered me a lot to think that my own community was rejecting me or that I felt rejected by my own community. On [dating Web sites] guys would describe that they would want a “clean” guy. And I put that in quotations. And I’m like, I don’t feel dirty. Yes I’m HIV positive, but I’m not dirty.

It is really dehumanizing. We’re all supposed to be in this together, but there’s no support. There’s no support. And it’s really sad. It’s the AIDS phobia, the lack of education, even in a community where it’s so rampant. It’s actually quite sad and sometimes you just don’t want to deal with it. So that’s why I stopped pursuing a relationship.

So after you got out of the hospital and you said, “I’m going to turn this around,” did you find love? Did you start dating again?

Yes, I did. I met a really nice guy and we started dating. I can tell you: Once I disclosed to him, he was very wary of the subject and he was looking to Wikipedia for statistics. I just think it’s crap anyway [to use Wikipedia to learn about HIV/AIDS]. I kind of just sat down with him and he was willing to listen. I was like, “You need to actually talk to people that are living with it and probably talk to doctors that work with this disease and are possibly HIV positive as well.” You can’t rely on Wikipedia to educate yourself.

Of course not.

It’s like, “Come on.” And it took him a couple of days to really process it and adjust to it. He came around. He realized that maybe there are safe practices. I mean, we’re still together, so that’s a very good thing.

Wonderful. And how long have you guys been dating?

About eight months now.

The Truth Behind the 12 Hottest Sex Myths

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You’ve heard the loose talk. Here’s how it stacks up with reality.

Men Reach Their Sexual Peak at 18, and Women Reach Theirs at 28

TRUE: With regard to their supply of sexual hormones, at least. Testosterone peaks at age 18 in men; women’s estrogen hits its high point in their mid-20s. “But peak hormones don’t mean peak sexual performance,” says Marc Goldstein, M.D., a professor of reproductive medicine and urology at Cornell University’s Weill Medical College. So feel free to try for a personal best—at any age.

Semen is Low-Carb

FALSE: “Semen is mostly fruit sugar [fructose] and enzymes—not low-carb,” says Dr. Goldstein. Which finally explains why there’s no Oral Sex Diet.

Masturbation Yields the Strongest Orgasm

TRUE: But it’s not a hard-and-fast rule, as it were. “It depends on the individual,” says Jon L. Pryor, M.D., a professor of urologic surgery at the University of Minnesota. “For some it does, but for others, there’s nothing that beats good ol’ intercourse.”

The Average Erection Is 8 Inches

FALSE: Relax, Shorty. It’s closer to 6.

Oysters Make You Horny

FALSE: You make you horny. “There is no scientific evidence that oysters increase libido,” says Dr. Pryor. “But there may be a placebo effect, so if it works, great!”

Green M&Ms Make You Horny

FALSE: Unless they do. Then it’s true. Isn’t the mind wonderful?

Men Think About Sex Every 7 Seconds

FALSE: That number is tossed around a lot, but the truth is that only 23 percent of men claim to fantasize frequently. But maybe the rest are just too distracted to check the clock.

Cutting Out Broccoli Will Make Your Semen Taste Better

TRUE: Semen is naturally bitter, and eating broccoli and drinking coffee can make it worse. A ray of hope for the Oral Sex Diet!

Having Sex Before an Important Event—the Big Game, the Critical Presentation—Can Ruin Your Performance in the Event

FALSE: Swiss researchers performed stress tests on people 2 and 10 hours after the subjects had had sex, and found that by 10 hours, the participants were fully recovered. There was only a small dip in performance 2 hours after sex.

Having Sex in Water (Swimming Pool, Hot Tub, Shower) Will Kill Sperm

TRUE: Some of your swimmers may die, but it isn’t an effective method of HIV prevention, according to Dr. Pryor. Though a hot tub can overheat your testicles and kill sperm, there should be plenty left over.

You Can be addicted to Web Porn

TRUE: But the risk is low. Only 1 percent of all people who check out Internet porn will become addicted. If you’re sporting a ring, be careful: 38 percent of addicts are in committed relationships.

You Can get HIV from the bite of a Mosquito

False: However, if you have unprotected anal sex with an infected Mosquito, you are at risk of getting HIV or any other Sexually Transmitted Disease


Mondo Talks Positive: Part I of interview with Mondo Guerra

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Mondo Guerra: Runner Up, Season 8 Project Runway

 

When Mondo Guerra was chosen to be on the hit reality show Project Runway, his main goal was to live out his dream of being a successful fashion designer, not be a poster boy for HIV. But one emotional challenge compelled him to disclose on air that he had been living with HIV for the past 10 years. In this exclusive interview with TheBody.com, Mondo talks about living with HIV for a decade, overcoming fear and stigma, and the disclosure that was seen around the world.

Can you describe the moment when you tested positive?

Yes, I was living in New York City and I was in a relationship. I went to a private doctor — this was in 2001. I don’t think there was a rapid test back then. So I left and I waited about five days. I was called back into the office and there was no way around it. The doctor just flat out told me that I was positive.

I got into a cab and I think I was probably really emotionally shut down. I wasn’t really feeling anything, but when I got home, I called my mentor. She was the first one I called.

I just really spent some time alone for a couple of days, trying to digest and process what I had learned about myself and about my health. Just reflecting on the past and projecting the future.

How old were you when you tested positive?

I was 22.

So you were 22. That’s very young. How long had you lived in New York City at that point?

I had lived there for about two years.

And so what did you think?

The funny thing is that I didn’t know what to think because I was very uneducated about the whole disease. I did not want to do anything really — I was just kind of

 

Mondo's Positive Pants

 

ignorant to the whole thing. I guess I could say that I was in a bit of denial.

How long did it take for you to not be in denial anymore and to kind of be just like, “Wow, I have HIV”?

You know, it’s been 10 years and I completely don’t know. I know that after the denial, I had to really change my mind about how I was going to wake up every day. I really accepted it as: This is my situation and I have to move forward. I had to give myself a lot of pep talks to remind myself that I don’t have any regrets and that I don’t feel sorry for myself. So it was definitely a process. I don’t think it ever changed. I don’t think that you can ever be 100 percent [OK with this].

Who was your support system at that time? I know you said you had been dating someone. Had you disclosed to him and other friends?

Yes, my partner back then was the one who actually took me to the doctor’s. So he knew from the very beginning. And [I also had disclosed] to a really small group of friends. For a long time, they have been my support system.

And how beneficial was it to have people to lean on during those first couple of years?

I just feel like maybe having people in my life that supported me and were willing to listen to me … It doesn’t have to be HIV, I think it could be about anything — if you’re going through any hardship in life, if you need people to trust, if you need people to open up to. Because if you try to do it all yourself, it can be very, very scary.

 

Heidi Klum in Mondo

 

Did you go to any kind of support groups, any social services? I know you said you were in New York City. Did you at all go to Gay Men’s Health Crisis or anything?

No, I never went to any support groups or anything like that. I was really just relying on my friends to kind of help me up.

How soon after your diagnosis did you start treatment? And was it something that you were scared to start?

No, I wasn’t scared to start, but my doctors had told me that I was pretty healthy and that they wouldn’t start meds right away. I didn’t really start meds until probably four years after. And the thing is that I was very, very irresponsible about taking my meds. It was just really hard. That was definitely a real lifestyle change for me.

Adhering to the medication?

Yes. Taking it all the time. The problem was that it took a really long time for my doctor to find a plan that worked for me. Things that weren’t — I feel like sometimes it was hurting me more than helping me.