Girls Love Zone: How to make oral sex more enjoyable

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Over the past month we told the guys how to get better acquainted with their anus, now it is the time for the ladies. Today we look at oral sex!
Ladies spend some time and get your lover excited before making the plunge. Tease her whole body before you head south. When having oral sex with your lover, it’s not all about her clitoris. Let your mouth and tongue explore her whole labia, clitoris and vagina.

Slowly lick up her thighs and kiss her vulva. Spread her legs and open her lips with your fingers. Take a look. Tell her how beautiful she looks.

Use your tongue. Your whole tongue. Flatten it out. Use just the tip. Lick her like an ice cream cone. Flick it like a butterfly wings. Use gentle strokes. As her excitement builds, add more pressure. Focus more on the area around her clit.

How to tell if she likes it With your head smashed between her thighs, it may be hard to see what her response is. Feel for the clues. If she raises her hips to meet your lips, that is good. If her vagina gets wet and her vulva swells, she’s getting aroused. If she starts moaning and trembling, keep doing what you’re doing. Rapid breathing and writhing around are good things. If she grabs your hair and pushes you in for more, things are definitely going well.

Take her clitoris in your mouth. Suck gently. Release. Gentle flicking can send her over the edge.

Use your hands. Place your hands under her butt and gently lift her towards your mouth. Reach up and stroke her nipples. Put a finger in her vagina or her anus.[Note: DO NOT go from her anus to her vagina–you can spread unwanted bacteria.]

Rhythm is the key. Tune in to her responses. All women are different. Have her tell you what she likes and wants more of. Some women love having their clits stroked, others are too sensitive. What turned her on one day, may not work the next. Some love a finger or two or three inside them, others do not. Some women love the feel of a finger in their anus, others jump to the ceiling with a screech.

Communication is necessary for great sex. If you’re new to this, or even if you’re not, talk to your partner. See what worked, what you might do differently and have fun perfecting your skills!

Don’t forget to brush up on Lesbian Safer Sex.

Pinky Dfox

Article taken from , About.com Guide

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Get to Know Your Anus: 10 Rules of Anal Sex Part III

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Jack Morin, PhD, a San Francisco sex therapist and researcher, is the author of Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men and Women.

Anal Eroticism is surrounded by a powerful taboo. Yet millions of men and women – straight, gay and bisexual – are experimenting with anal sex. The anus, richly endowed with nerve endings and interconnected with the main pelvic muscles, is the closest erogenous neighbor of the genitals and contracts rhythmically during orgasm. Thirty-five years ago, Kinsey stated that the anal region had erotic significance for about half of the population. In a survey of 100,000 Playboy readers, 47 percent of the men and 61 percent of the women admitted to having tried anal intercourse.

Yet the anal taboo inhibits most people from thinking, talking and learning about the sexual use of the anus. Listed here are the ten things most men and women still do not know about anal sex. (Previously we published the first seven, here are three more facts you should know):

8. Different rules of hygiene apply to the vagina and rectum

Since intercourse can be vaginal or rectal, many people assume the the same rules apply for the penetration of the vagina and rectum. Although both are lined with soft tissue and are capable of expanding, they are radically dissimilar.

The rectum is not straight. After the short anal canal which connects the anal opening to the rectum, the rectum tilts toward the front of the body. A few inches in, it curves back – sometimes as much as 90 degrees. Then, after a few more inches, it swoops toward the front of the body once again. A person can learn about the shape of his or her rectum by gently inserting a soft object, trying different angles and body positions and concentrating on how it feels. Make sure the object has a flared base so that if you loose your grip, it won’t slip into the rectum and become irretrievable.

The rectum does not produce lubrication like the vagina but only a small amount of mucus. Therefore, rectal penetration always requires a lubricant. Chemical additives should be avoided. Water-based lubricants are latex-compatible.

The main function of the rectum is to act as a passageway for feces. But feces are not normally stored in the rectum except just prior to a bowel movement. Yet small amounts may remain in the rectum, expecially if the feces are not well formed. Anal douching before lovemaking will help some people especailly concerned with cleanliness to relax. For others the idea of dirtiness heightens the joy of the forbidden; for them, douching is anti-erotic.

9. Anal intercourse is not necessarily an act of dominance and submission.

The top-bottom imagery associated with anal intercourse is widespread. No doubt the belief that anal sex has to hurt contributes to this notion. And in fact some people are intensely excited by top-bottom fantasies about anal sex. The thought that they are submitting to such a degrading act is a terrific thrill. However, actual, not fantasized, anal pain can lead to trouble.

For others, the enjoyment of anal sex is inhibited by top-bottom imagery. The idea of surrendering control, and perhaps submitting to humiliation, causes immediate, protective tensing of the anal muscles. These individuals are more likely to relax and enjoy themselves if they can learn to regard anal sex as pleasurable rather than as an expression of power.

10. Anal sex can be perfectly safe, even beneficial.

The taboo against anal eroticism is perpetuated by the almost universal belief among physicians that anal sex is inevitably dangerous. No physical injury from anal stimulation results if both partners refuse to tolerate pain, never use force and avoid the use of drugs.

All the other risks center on sexually transmitted diseases. Each of the common STDs – gonorrhea, syphillis, herpes – can affect the anus. Intestinal parasites, bacteria or tiny bugs are usually passed along when fecal matter finds its way into someone’s mouth or vagina, most likely through rimming.

AIDS has complicated the matter. The HIV virus can pass from the semen or blood of an infected person to the bloodstream of a partner through a tiny break in the rectal tissue during anal intercourse.

To avoid this risk, anal intercourse and rimming should not be practiced casually. Those who do enjoy anal intercourse should always use a condom. Rimming should always be accomplished by a latex barrier. Of course, in a monogamous relationship with two healthy people, the risk of disease transmitted anally is reduced.

Thousands of men and women with chronic anal medical problems have restored their anal health by challenging their negative attitudes. This approach is indispensible for full erotic enjoyment of the anus.

J-FLAG & Human Rights Activists call for an end to violence against LGBT Community

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Kingston — September 24, 2010

Despite calls for tolerance by our religious, political and social leaders, attacks against Jamaica’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender population continue unabated.  The latest such attacks occurred this September when knife wielding thugs carried out ‘corrective rapes’ of two lesbians in separate incidents within days of each other.

In response to these most recent attacks and the seeming inability or unwillingness of the nation’s political leaders to curb them, the Jamaica Forum for Lesbians All-sexuals and Gays (J-FLAG) and its human rights allies held a 30 minutes silent ‘Stand Up to Violence’ in front of Emancipation Park on Friday, September 24, 2010 which began at 7:40am.

Dane Lewis, Executive Director of J-FLAG, hailed the event as a success despite the delayed start because of the rain. This was also measured by the broad based support received from numerous allies & agencies, including Jamaica AIDS Support for Life, members of Jamaicans for Justice, Pride in Action, Women for Women, Sex Work Association of Jamaica, Sunshine Cathedral Jamaica, Caribbean Vulnerable Communities Coalition and AIDS Free World.

International defence attorney Lord Anthony Gifford, QC, noted that “the issue of violence against gays and lesbians is a human rights issue and I was taking a stand to support that as it is important to keep the issue of rights in the public’s consciousness.” Susan Goffe, member of Jamaicans For Justice, said “it is important to understand the effect of homophobic rhetoric and the feeling that it is alright to target members of the LGBT community. The state must clearly illustrate by its action that it defends and protects the rights of women and this includes all women regardless of their sexuality. The acts against these women should unambiguously be condemned.”

Participants held up placards which read ‘Gay or Straight, Let’s all Tolerate’, ‘Gays have Rights,’ and ‘Stop the Hate Before It’s Too Late’, ‘Live and Let Love’, ‘Equal Rights & Justice’ and ‘Out of Many One People’.

While pointing to the need for strong action to be taken against gender based violence in any form, Programme Manager at Caribbean Vulnerable CommunitiesCoalition, Ivan Cruickshank appealed to all well thinking Jamaicans to join in promoting and protecting the rights of all citizens regardless of their sexual orientation.

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The following persons may be contacted for an interview:
Susan Goffe – 815-3648
Dane Lewis – 978-8988/ 875-2328

Dane Lewis
Executive Director
Jamaica Forum for Lesbians All-Sexuals and Gays – J-FLAG
Tel/ Fax: (876)978-8988
Website: www.jflag.org
email: admin@jflag.org

Programme/Research Assistant Wanted

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A Human Rights NGO

is seeking to contract the services of a

Programme/ Research Assistant

JOB SUMMARY

The successful applicant would be responsible for providing assistance to the Executive Director

SCOPE OF WORK

  • Provide support to the Executive Director in managing programmes, carrying out research, coordination of workshops and other related activities for marginalised populations
  • Maintain a record of community workshops and files of activities executed on the Project
  • Identify  existing community based organizations and other groups and act as liaison
  • Maintain contact with community members, leaders, partners and external stakeholders for advancing the work of the Project and improving community development
  • Monitor the media for reports and maintain a record of developing challenges affecting specific communities
  • Maintain a contact database of stakeholders
  • Write quality and timely reports as required

SKILLS

  • Ability to work effectively within a team environment
  • Excellent communication skills; oral and written
  • Excellent knowledge of Microsoft Office Products
  • Highly organized

QUALIFICATIONS

  • Minimum – Certificate/ Diploma/ Associate Degree in the Social Sciences, Education, Communications, Programme Management or a related field.
  • Experience in the field Research/Writing Skills
  • Experience and strong skills in the use of Microsoft Office Suite, especially, PowerPoint, Excel, Word, Access and Project.
  • Experience working with civil society organisations and background in human rights and justice reform would be an asset.

Interested candidates should send an Application Letter and Resume by September 17, 2010 to: jobsattheforum@gmail.com

Fellowship Opportunity

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2011-2012

Fellowships in International Human Rights

For recent graduates of law schools or graduate programs in journalism, international relations, area studies, or other relevant disciplines from universities worldwide.

Human Rights Watch, the international human rights monitoring and advocacy organization, invites applications for its fellowship program. Human Rights Watch is known for its impartial and reliable human rights reporting on over 70 countries worldwide, its innovative and high-profile advocacy campaigns, and its success in affecting the policy of the US and other influential governments toward human rights abusers.

Unrestricted Fellowship

Alan R. and Barbara D. Finberg Fellowship – Established in memory of Alan R. and Barbara D. Finberg, early supporters of Human Rights Watch, this fellowship is open to recent graduates (at the Master’s level) in the fields of law, journalism, international relations, or other relevant studies. Graduates with LL.B. degrees or advanced degrees in other relevant disciplines may also be considered.

JOB DESCRIPTION: Fellows work full-time for one year with Human Rights Watch in New York, Washington, D.C., or London. (Aryeh Neier fellows work full-time in New York or Washington, DC, and, for an additional year at the ACLU.) Fellows monitor human rights developments in various countries, conduct on-site investigations, draft reports on human rights conditions, and engage in advocacy aimed at publicizing and curtailing human rights violations. Past fellows have conducted research and advocacy on numerous different issues in countries all over the world. A few recent examples are: a project on civil and political rights in Cuba; on criminal defamation laws in Indonesia; on the rights of persons with mental disabilities in Croatia; on corporal punishment of children in public schools in the US; on abuses against migrant domestic workers in Kuwait; and on police brutality in Brazil.

QUALIFICATIONS: Applicants must have exceptional analytic skills, an ability to write and speak clearly, and a commitment to work in the human rights field in the future. Proficiency in one language in addition to English is strongly desired. Familiarity with countries or regions where serious human rights violations occur is also valued. Depending on the fellowship for which they wish to apply, prospective fellows must be recent graduates of law, journalism, international relations, or other relevant studies, or must provide evidence of significant, comparable, relevant work experience(please see our Frequently Asked Questions section for the specific requirements of the various fellowships.

Fellowships begin in September 2011.

SALARY AND BENEFITS: The salary for 2010-2011 fellows will be $55,000, plus excellent employer-paid benefits. The salary for 2011-2012 is currently under review and may be increased.

APPLICATION DEADLINE: OCTOBER 8, 2010

Applicants are responsible for compiling complete application packets which must include the following:

  • cover letter
  • resume
  • two letters of recommendation
  • at least one unedited, unpublished writing sample
  • an official law or graduate school transcript (applicants in one-year graduate programs should supply an undergraduate transcript with a list of their graduate school courses and an official letter from the graduate program confirming enrollment)

Complete applications (including transcripts and recommendations) for 2011-2012 fellowships must bereceived no later than October 8, 2010.  Applications should be sent by e-mail, under single cover and as PDF files, to fellowship@hrw.org with the name of the fellowship in the subject line.

Applicants must be available for interviews in New York from early November to mid-December 2010.  Inquiries may be directed to fellowship@hrw.org. Please see our Frequently Asked Questions page for more information.

Human Rights Watch is an equal opportunity employer that does not discriminate in its hiring practices and, in order to build the strongest possible workforce, actively seeks a diverse applicant pool.

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Human Rights Watch is an international human rights monitoring and advocacy organization known for its in-depth investigations, its incisive and timely reporting, its innovative and high-profile advocacy campaigns, and its success in changing the human rights-related policies and practices of influential governments and international institutions.