I am a Young Christian male. The problem is I am also gay. How do I reconcile being a Christian and being gay with what my church teaches?
Dear Christian Freak,
Unfortunately, many Christians who are gay or Gays who are Christian experience this dilemma. And they should not have to because the teachings of scripture should supersede the dogma of any denomination (unfortunately the twain are not always synonymous).
If it is true that a person receives salvation (or God’s favour) based on grace and not works (Ephesians 2:8-9), then it matters not what a person does or does not [do]. Since salvation was not gained through works it cannot be maintained through works either. The question is then, since goodness qualified no man, how does “badness” disqualify any?
Furthermore, the concept of justification dispels the myth that by virtue of one’s sexuality, one is disqualified from salvation. Justification is a legal term, which means the accused [aka sinner] is declared innocent or acquitted from all charges. But the concept also speaks of a make-up… knowing that humans can never meet his standard of holiness/perfection, God gives us a make-up or “brawta” and then declares us innocent. To then turn around and prosecute us on any charge of sin would be double jeopardy (a legal impossibility).
Lastly, God is Spirit and they that worship God must do so in Spirit and in truth. The lesson here is that Spirit transcends human limitation of gender assignment. God therefore communicates with us on a spiritual level but God also expects people to come as they are (True to whom they are). Take into account Isaiah’s experience in Chapter 6 of the book of Isaiah. He encountered God and said “God mi does cuss bad word and everybody else rung meh does cuss too” Consequently, God’s action towards him was not punitive but embracing. Look also at Jesus’ response to the sex worker who came to him with her alabaster box of perfume and massaged him. His concerned was not about who she had sex with but where her heart was.
It is either we are saved by grace (meaning we nuh affi do nottin’) or by works (meaning there is a list of things we must and must not do) but it cannot be both.
That said, faith and sexuality can be reconciled but as far as your local church goes, it is up to you to decide if you want to stay there. They may never accept you for your sexuality but God does.
PEACE & LOVE